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About Emma

Let me first locate myself. I am a white, middle-class cis-gendered bisexual female in her 40's, in a Civil Partnership and co-habiting with my male partner. We have children or pets currently, although I love animals. I consider myself spiritual and do not identify as religious. I grew up in Buckinghamshire and relocated to Derbyshire in 2021. I am able-bodied, highly sensitive and relatively neurotypical. I have all the privileges except gender. I do struggle with loud or intrusive noises and choose to live in a quiet rural area as it's good for my nervous system and allows me to connect with nature and the outdoors on a daily basis. I love love, health and nutrition, swimming, cycling, running, spending time with my friends, family and especially my partner, sex, learning, financial planning and adventures. I dislike assumptions, coercive control, being late and having too much to do.

I work with clients of all identities and backgrounds, mostly individuals and occasionally couples. I love my work and my clients and will continue to develop myself personally and professionally in order to grow with the needs I sense in my client base in within myself.

I have run sexuality-based training programmes for individuals who identify as male and female, appeared on podcasts and webinars and taught in-person workshops for the sexually open-minded.

I used to write a bit and now I am focussing on 1 to 1 client work as I am touched daily by the people and stories that cross my path looking for healing and understand there may be a shortage of available therapists at times.

I am a strong advocate for open and transparent conversations about sex and feelings held in safe, healthy and non violent ways.

I work to support adults to re-educate themselves about sex and sexual energy, boundaries (theirs and others), self-care and self love. I invite clients to take personal responsibility for their sexual and interpersonal development and to increase their capacity for relating so we can begin to rebuild a culture where we relate to one-another in healthy ways, to rebalance gender, race and other power dynamics, to reconnect ourselves with the natural environment and to learn to enjoy the resources we can provide for each other relationally when life gets tough.

I consider myself now as a guide and a facilitator to others who are looking to heal from past trauma and make changes in their lives. I specialise in both sexuality and parts work (IFS) and over the years I’ve found perceived sexuality-related issues are almost always routed eventually in developmental trauma and attachment wounding so I hold each person’s wish for sexual healing lightly and in the context of the complexity of their whole lives. Many of my clients do not bring sexuality related issues and I do not work exclusively with those focussing on the role of sexuality within their lives.

I do not have a Masters or a PhD in Psychotherapy or Counselling and I am not overseen by a Registered UK Body such as the UKCP, BACP, ASIS or COSRT currently. I review this choice regularly. If you are looking for a registered Psychotherapist or Counsellor you can find one via the relevant body websites. 

I have chosen to Certify in and work with an integrated approach combining Internal Family Systems and Psychosexual Somatics® Therapy and am adding inputs from Relational Life Therapy and other couples therapy models that support a relational mindset. The latter is a work in progress.

Availability and Experience

As at 31th Dec 2025:

Direct Client Hours: 

  • 2510 hours of Individual Therapy, Coaching or Mentoring
  • 130 hours of Couples Work
  • 63 hours of Group Facilitation (Direct Leadership. Not including programme assisting)

Current Availability: Practise full and Waitlist Open

  • Waitlist is maximum 8 people at any one time
  • Pre-existing clients are prioritised
  • This can be subject to change
  • Please enquire for pricing or with any questions

Professional Background:

Leaving a career in Finance and Business in 2015 after a personal physical and mental health crisis, that originated 3 years earlier, I made a transition into the realm of supporting others with Self-healing from Trauma; with a focus on sex, relationships and personal development.

I leverage my subsequent professional trainings, learned experiences through own system and history, including my trauma healing journey, my personal interest in human transformation, neuro-plasticity, mental and physical health, teachings from the various modalities and teachers I have studied with professionally and for personal development, lessons from my clients, supervisors, therapists, friendships and romantic relationships all together into my expression as a facilitator, practitioner and mentor. I am a life-long student of what it is to be human, having Graduated with a Degree in Human Sciences at Oxford University and adding a Certificate in Sustainable Business at Post-Grad level at Cambridge.

Professionally I'm a Certified Internal Family Systems Practitioner (Level 3 trained), qualified PsychoSexual Somatics® Therapist, with a background in Finance and Business (ACA, Senior Management for AkzoNobel), Human Sciences (Oxford MA), Sustainable Business Development (Post Grad Certificate) and Neuro-Linguistic Programming (Business Practitioner).

I'm an ongoing student and previous programme assistant for Internal Family Systems UK (Level 3 trained Feb 2022 and Fully Certified in 2021) and have previously been a Mentor and Leader for the PsychoSexual Somatics® Coaching Programme.

I have previously taught for Killing Kittens (A Shame-free community for Dating and Sex Ed), for Sonder and Beam (A peer-to-peer network allowing women and non binary folks to understand and own their sexuality) and my own courses for both men and women, online and in person respectively.

Personal Background:

Personally I have a background in Martial Arts (Kickboxing Black Belt), Writing, Music Long-term Relating, PTSD Recovery, Major Hip Surgery, Property Renovations, Being a Landlady, Sexual & Relational Experimentation, Shamanic Healing (Jay and Kestrel Oakwood, Glastonbury), Women’s Tantra (Micheale Boehm Yr 1), Vaginal Kung Fu (Kim Anami), plus have been mentored on the topics of Sexual Communication, Betty Martins’ “Wheel of Consent” and Non Violent Communication (Marshall B Rosenberg) through various workshops and in person by a former mentor, coach and friend, based in California.

I have dabbled personally in a number of personal development trainings, practises and groups I do not recommend to others, including the International School for Temple Arts (Level 1), Landmark, and Orgasmic Meditation (One Taste). Each has given me growth and lessons in different ways, although was not necessarily supportive of healing or grounding.

I am a human with all the gifts and humilities of that experience and wish to meet you as equals as you walk your path.

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The first step starts with reaching out. Please get in touch to let me know you are interested in doing your inner work. I offer a free 20 min Zoom introductory call if I’m able to accommodate you as a new or potential new client. I look forward to hearing from you.

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"The body is our soul made visible, plus our history."

Mike Lousada, Founder of Psychosexual Somatics® Therapy

“Place yourself in the cycle of life by living like nature, letting go of the death of your winter (older or outdated versions of yourself) as you are reborn into a new shape of possibility, your spring.”

Anne Davin, PhD

"Out of difficulties grow miracles.” 

Jean De La Bruyere

"Our nervous system is built to respond to certain input in a way that gives us maximum survival.” 

Michaela Boehm

"There is a voice that doesn't use words. Listen.” 

Rumi

"Emma has a very compassionate heart and a strong sense of empathy, both of which she uses to lovingly support clients to drop more fully into their bodies. She is open-minded, non-judgmental and can safely hold space for many states and experiences and help clients ground and integrate different aspects of themselves. She is an excellent PST practitioner and I warmly recommend her."

Mike Lousada, Founder of Psychosexual Somatics Therapy

"Emma Harper's passion for transformation - both in herself and in her clients - matches her enthusiasm for life. I admire her wild feminine courage to dive head first into the cutting edges of all her lines of development, and as she does, others are inspired to do the same. The result ... Freedom. Vitality. Synchronicity. Sensuality. Magic. Miracles. Yes!"

Lissa Rankin, MD

"Experiencing with Emma as my psychosexual somatic therapist is strong feeling of being held, seen and supported in my healing process. I feel safe and supported with Emma to trully express my emotions and feelings. She has strong empathy and I adore her body intuition to help me to connect to myself and listen to my body and dont let me to escape. I can hardly explain how good it feels when she hold safe and powerful space for me to guide me to release blocks and integrate part of myself I was rejecting. It is life shifting work we do together (for each other). Thank you Emma for your great work. I look forward to more release and more integration with you."

Barbora Koblizek, (Tantric Masseuse and Fellow PST Therapist)

"Working with Emma was a wonderfully nurturing and empowering experience. I'm really grateful for what she taught me about my body and sexuality. I was amazed by the variety of techniques that Emma used to help me understand my body and mind. I've learnt things about myself that have helped me in all areas of my life, not just the bedroom!” 

Miranda Bloodworth

I really enjoyed the Unravelling Peak Performance workshop. I met a group of nice gentlemen, we shared our stories and experiences sometimes with bravery and always with open heart, learnt about each other, and most importantly made progress in being better men and better partners. I loved how Emma facilitated the workshop, bringing us where she wanted in a gentle and loving way. I highly recommend this workshop to everyone who is on his journey to be a better man.

JJ Munsch, 2020 Unravelling Peak Performance workshop participant

"Powerful and transformative - what I learned was well beyond any expectations. Emma is a brilliant facilitator who created the space and material for us to grow rapidly whilst having fun."

Anthony Kennon

Emma held a space for me which allowed me to feel safe, seen and deeply valued. Her gentle directions and guidance allowed me to access parts of myself that I had been frightened to look at on my own. Being supported by Emma has enabled me to make positive changes in my life from an embodied place. 

Grace Brown, PST Mentee

Emma, I am grateful that you were my mentor. You attuned really well to what I needed in the mentor sessions. You are very good in paraphrasing what is really important in such a way that that it sinks deeper. You have the gift of being able to really see people in their essence, in what makes them unique. You have a great intuition, and you bring that kind of safety that invites me to bring what wants to be seen, even when that is very vulnerable. And you always give choice, which feels very empowering. 

Thank you very much. Warm hugs

Karen. PST Mentee

 "The powerful yet vulnerable way Emma guided and mirrored me in my intimate process of growth has been a very insightful and remarkable journey."  

Piero Flor, Intimacycoach

"I have come out of it a changed woman. I have dropped the old stories of something being wrong with me and that I am not sexual. I am able to stand in my power and in the sexual energy without always wanting to run away from it."

“ I still want to work more on it, to uncover more of me that has been in hiding for so long. But I will be doing the work in the knowledge that I am not broken or frigid, I am not any of the labels I have been called over the years. I am a healthy, sexual woman who chooses when and with whom she wants to share that energy with. I know now that my sexuality is not always connected to someone else, that I am a sexual being in my own right and that it doesn't have to include anyone else. That is a revelation for me!" 

Louise Merrick; Mother, Writer, Women's Sexual Expression Programme 2019 Graduate

“ I felt so seen, heard and supported with Emma as my PST mentor, I cannot recommend her enough. She has a gentle and caring presence combined with intelligence that feels very unique, she helped build my confidence and empowered me to trust my instincts. “ 

Alakina Mann, Mentee

"Emma rocks!!"

...and....

Emma has a safe, grounded and beautifully heart centred presence. She welcomed all parts of me into the space; the tender, the crazy, the angry, the sexy, the sleepy, the powerful...the full spectrum of being human. She has a lot of wisdom across different modalities and her approach integrates mind, body and spirit at a pace that my psyche was ready to open to. During our sessions, I was particularly thankful that she has an understanding of sexual energy/life-force energy and an awareness of the spiritual awakening process. 

Eshana Spiers

Emma's attention and skill over the last six months as a mentor and PST therapist has allowed me to feel safely held, seen, heard and respected through the process of our work together. Her being a mentor throughout my training was a major resource to me. I experienced her energy as boldly protective. Fiery and strong, yet compassionate; she has an amazing ability to understand a variety of experiences in a very open-minded way. She helped me to slow things right down and to get me to feel what was going on for me beneath the surface. 

Emma taught me to hold my own in identifying behaviour that was not ok and to set boundaries within my life that have proved to be so transformative for me. Her creative and playful energy also assisted me in forming a deeper relationship with my body in a way that lifted some of the heaviness I had been experiencing.

I am deeply honoured to have had Emma as a support during a monumental time in my life. Thank you Emma!

Sofia Panayiotou, PST Coach and Energy Work Practitioner

“I worked quite intensively with Emma over a period of 6 months or so. I found her to be a practitioner of great depth and empathy. Her ability to find just the right gesture, the right word, the right moment to say nothing at all, allowed me to go very deep into my inner processing of trauma from my past. During the time that I was under Emma’s care, I released some of the biggest trauma wounding patterns of my life. I can honestly say, that I am a different person since I completed this work with Emma. I feel that I have my life back. You are very lucky to find this wonderful practitioner. She has a very great capacity to hold you in your process, if you are willing to do your own work”

Karin Probert

Emma has an unparalleled ability to hear the meaning behind what I say and guide me to understand it. She has helped transform my sense of myself and my relationship. Her work is life-changing. She is a gift. 

Anonymous, civil servant, 40 (but in remarkably good shape for it)