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About Trauma

Sexual Trauma

All of us experience Trauma. It's a natural part of life. We all have experiences that are more than our systems can handle and when this happens our bodies do whatever is necessary to survive. 

Trauma is normal. It happens to everyone. 

We live in a world where bad things happen to good people, men and women alike, and even if you manage to survive childhood and avoid war, rape, sexual abuse, molestation, physical or emotional abuse or abandonment, assault, boundary violations, neglect, repressive religious or cultural environments, miscarriage, break-up, co-dependency, narcissistic relationships, heartbreak, abortion, c-section, traumatic birth, surgery, death of a loved one, betrayal, near death experiences, abduction or general isolation a  “normal upbringing” usually results in disconnection from and shaming of our inherent sexual nature.

Shit happens ... and we just keep going.

If you're reading this now, well done. You've made it this far. Not everyone does.

Our Trauma shapes us.

On an unconscious level our bodies and brains remember what worked in the past to help us navigate overwhelming experiences and we then utilise the fast-track neural pathways we built at that time to operate successful behaviours again and again whenever we feel under threat. Most of the time we don't even realise it's happening.

Your body is a survival expert.

These experiences of childhood and adult trauma and the survival mechanisms we learn as a result of them cause us to close-down, split-off and become inherently less capable of connection and intimacy. They affect our psyche, our neurology, our emotional reactivity and the patterns of muscle holding in the body.

All of this affects our Sex

In therapy we identify how you avoid your pain.

In PsychoSexual Somatics® Therapy (PST) we identify your "Avoidant behaviours": those patterns of operating in your bodymind that have been successful to stop you becoming overwhelmed in the past by experiences of Rejection, Abandonment, Betrayal, Worthlessness and Powerlessness. We work to create new neural pathways that offer you more choices in how you show up in life so that you can be more present, more loving and ultimately experience more pleasure.

Our brains love efficiency and the rewards of nice feelings so very quickly the body learns to direct sensory traffic down your new, more loving pathways and the old trauma neural mega-highways begin to delete and dissolve, leaving you free to live your life unconstrained by the effects of your past.

"The secret of change is to focus all your energy not on fighting the old but on building the new.” 


Socrates