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Models and Practitioners:

Learn more about Internal Family Systems and Founder Richard Schwartz. 

https://ifs-institute.com/

 

Find an IFS Practitioner or Therapist in the UK

Internal Family Systems directory - Internal Family Systems training UK

 

Find an IFS Practitioner or Therapist Worldwide

IFS Directory | IFS Institute (ifs-institute.com)

 

Find an IFIO (Intimacy from the Inside Out) Practitioner

Intimacy From the Inside Out (toniherbineblank.com)

 

Learn more about Psychosexual Somatics Therapy (Healing Connections) and the Creator Mike Lousada and find a practitioner
www.psychosexualsomatics.com/

 

Find an RLT (Relational Life Therapy) Practitioner 

therapist map (relationallife.com)

 

Develop your awareness and understanding of Attachment Theory in relation to trauma with Diane Poole Heller

Trauma Solutions (dianepooleheller.com)

 

Develop your awareness around nervous system regulation (polyvagal theory) and trauma with Deb Dana

Deb Dana — Rhythm of Regulation

 

Connect with Peter Levines work on Somatic Experiencing for Trauma

Ergos Institute, inc™ (somaticexperiencing.com)

Reading List:

If you read 3 books in this field only read:

1.     Where to Draw the Line, Anne Katherine, M.A (Boundaires)

2.     Eight Dates, Gottam, Schwartz Gottam, Abrams and Carlton Abrams (Relationship Communication)

3.     The Language of Emotions Karla McLaren (Self regulation)

Be aware that reading ab out trauma can be activating. Take any trauma books listed below on only with consideration for your own state of Self regulation and be prepared to stop if you feel overwhelming feelings or sensations.

Other reading:

If you want to learn more about Internal Family Systems Therapy, parts of the personality, how we function and how therapy works to resolve client challenges read:

  • Internal Family Systems, Richard C. Schwartz
  • No Bad Parts, Richard C. Schwartz
  • You are the one you’ve been waiting for, Richard C. Schwartz

If you are a woman wanting to develop your capacity for orgasm read:

  • Becoming Orgasmic: A Sexual and Personal Growth Program for Women, Julia R. Heimen and Joseph Lopiccolo
  • Women’s Anatomy of Arousal, Sheri Winston

If you are a woman wanting to restore your sexual self confidence by changing the way you view your sexuality; understanding what turns you on and what blocks the flow read:

  • Come as you are, Emily Nagoski
     

If you are in a relationship and you want to test for long-term compatability, improve relationship skills or deepen intimacy whilst learning what makes long-lasting marriages read:

  • The New Rules of Marriage, Terrence Real

If you are curious about the relationship between mind and body and traumatic stress read:

  • Bodymind, Ken Dychtwald
  • The Body Keeps the Score, Bessel Van Der Kolk
  • Waking the Tiger. Healing Trauma, Peter A Levine
  • Healing Developmental Trauma, Laurence Heller and Aline LaPierre 

If you want to learn more about Complex PTSD and taking a personal journey to recovery after a difficult childhood read:

  • Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving

If you're open to mindfulness practise to deepen your capacity for love read:

  • Review Your Brain for Love. Creating Vibrant Relationships Using the Science of Mindfulness, Marsha Lucas PhD 

If you want to better understand and explore your erotic attractions read:

  • The Erotic Mind. Inner Pathways to Sexual Excitement, Jack Morin

If you're curious about alternative models of human relating and sexuality read:

  • The Ethical Slut, A Roadmap for Relationship Pioneers, Dossie Easton, Janet W. Hardy 

 If you're curious about how attachment theory interfaces with polyamory

  • Polysecure, Jessica Fern 

If you want to better understand and gain awareness around Boundaries read:

  • Boundaries, where you end and I begin, Anne Katherine, M.A.
  • Where to Draw the Line, Anne Katherine, M.A 

If you want to understand the purpose of emotions and the implications of being empathic read:

  • The Art of Empathy, Karla McLaren
  • The Language of Emotions Karla McLaren 

If you want to redefine how you view sex read:

  • Real Sex, By Mike Lousada and Louise Mazanti 

If you are building your understanding about why affairs happen read:

  • The state of Affairs, Esther Perel

If you want to deepen your knowledge about relationships read:

  • Mating in Captivity, Esther Perel
  • Us, Terrence Real

If you’re ready to meet someone and don’t know what’s getting in the way read:

  • Calling in the one, Katherine Woodward Thomas

If you’re ready to end your current relationship with kindness and consciousness read:

  • Conscious Uncoupling, Katherine Woodward Thomas

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Anne Davin, PhD

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Rumi

"Emma has a very compassionate heart and a strong sense of empathy, both of which she uses to lovingly support clients to drop more fully into their bodies. She is open-minded, non-judgmental and can safely hold space for many states and experiences and help clients ground and integrate different aspects of themselves. She is an excellent PST practitioner and I warmly recommend her."

Mike Lousada, Founder of Psychosexual Somatics Therapy

"Emma Harper's passion for transformation - both in herself and in her clients - matches her enthusiasm for life. I admire her wild feminine courage to dive head first into the cutting edges of all her lines of development, and as she does, others are inspired to do the same. The result ... Freedom. Vitality. Synchronicity. Sensuality. Magic. Miracles. Yes!"

Lissa Rankin, MD

"Experiencing with Emma as my psychosexual somatic therapist is strong feeling of being held, seen and supported in my healing process. I feel safe and supported with Emma to trully express my emotions and feelings. She has strong empathy and I adore her body intuition to help me to connect to myself and listen to my body and dont let me to escape. I can hardly explain how good it feels when she hold safe and powerful space for me to guide me to release blocks and integrate part of myself I was rejecting. It is life shifting work we do together (for each other). Thank you Emma for your great work. I look forward to more release and more integration with you."

Barbora Koblizek, (Tantric Masseuse and Fellow PST Therapist)

"Working with Emma was a wonderfully nurturing and empowering experience. I'm really grateful for what she taught me about my body and sexuality. I was amazed by the variety of techniques that Emma used to help me understand my body and mind. I've learnt things about myself that have helped me in all areas of my life, not just the bedroom!” 

Miranda Bloodworth

I really enjoyed the Unravelling Peak Performance workshop. I met a group of nice gentlemen, we shared our stories and experiences sometimes with bravery and always with open heart, learnt about each other, and most importantly made progress in being better men and better partners. I loved how Emma facilitated the workshop, bringing us where she wanted in a gentle and loving way. I highly recommend this workshop to everyone who is on his journey to be a better man.

JJ Munsch, 2020 Unravelling Peak Performance workshop participant

"Powerful and transformative - what I learned was well beyond any expectations. Emma is a brilliant facilitator who created the space and material for us to grow rapidly whilst having fun."

Anthony Kennon

Emma held a space for me which allowed me to feel safe, seen and deeply valued. Her gentle directions and guidance allowed me to access parts of myself that I had been frightened to look at on my own. Being supported by Emma has enabled me to make positive changes in my life from an embodied place. 

Grace Brown, PST Mentee

Emma, I am grateful that you were my mentor. You attuned really well to what I needed in the mentor sessions. You are very good in paraphrasing what is really important in such a way that that it sinks deeper. You have the gift of being able to really see people in their essence, in what makes them unique. You have a great intuition, and you bring that kind of safety that invites me to bring what wants to be seen, even when that is very vulnerable. And you always give choice, which feels very empowering. 

Thank you very much. Warm hugs

Karen. PST Mentee

 "The powerful yet vulnerable way Emma guided and mirrored me in my intimate process of growth has been a very insightful and remarkable journey."  

Piero Flor, Intimacycoach

"I have come out of it a changed woman. I have dropped the old stories of something being wrong with me and that I am not sexual. I am able to stand in my power and in the sexual energy without always wanting to run away from it."

“ I still want to work more on it, to uncover more of me that has been in hiding for so long. But I will be doing the work in the knowledge that I am not broken or frigid, I am not any of the labels I have been called over the years. I am a healthy, sexual woman who chooses when and with whom she wants to share that energy with. I know now that my sexuality is not always connected to someone else, that I am a sexual being in my own right and that it doesn't have to include anyone else. That is a revelation for me!" 

Louise Merrick; Mother, Writer, Women's Sexual Expression Programme 2019 Graduate

“ I felt so seen, heard and supported with Emma as my PST mentor, I cannot recommend her enough. She has a gentle and caring presence combined with intelligence that feels very unique, she helped build my confidence and empowered me to trust my instincts. “ 

Alakina Mann, Mentee

"Emma rocks!!"

...and....

Emma has a safe, grounded and beautifully heart centred presence. She welcomed all parts of me into the space; the tender, the crazy, the angry, the sexy, the sleepy, the powerful...the full spectrum of being human. She has a lot of wisdom across different modalities and her approach integrates mind, body and spirit at a pace that my psyche was ready to open to. During our sessions, I was particularly thankful that she has an understanding of sexual energy/life-force energy and an awareness of the spiritual awakening process. 

Eshana Spiers

Emma's attention and skill over the last six months as a mentor and PST therapist has allowed me to feel safely held, seen, heard and respected through the process of our work together. Her being a mentor throughout my training was a major resource to me. I experienced her energy as boldly protective. Fiery and strong, yet compassionate; she has an amazing ability to understand a variety of experiences in a very open-minded way. She helped me to slow things right down and to get me to feel what was going on for me beneath the surface. 

Emma taught me to hold my own in identifying behaviour that was not ok and to set boundaries within my life that have proved to be so transformative for me. Her creative and playful energy also assisted me in forming a deeper relationship with my body in a way that lifted some of the heaviness I had been experiencing.

I am deeply honoured to have had Emma as a support during a monumental time in my life. Thank you Emma!

Sofia Panayiotou, PST Coach and Energy Work Practitioner

“I worked quite intensively with Emma over a period of 6 months or so. I found her to be a practitioner of great depth and empathy. Her ability to find just the right gesture, the right word, the right moment to say nothing at all, allowed me to go very deep into my inner processing of trauma from my past. During the time that I was under Emma’s care, I released some of the biggest trauma wounding patterns of my life. I can honestly say, that I am a different person since I completed this work with Emma. I feel that I have my life back. You are very lucky to find this wonderful practitioner. She has a very great capacity to hold you in your process, if you are willing to do your own work”

Karin Probert

Emma has an unparalleled ability to hear the meaning behind what I say and guide me to understand it. She has helped transform my sense of myself and my relationship. Her work is life-changing. She is a gift. 

Anonymous, civil servant, 40 (but in remarkably good shape for it)