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"Unravelling Peak Performance". Sexuality and Vulnerability: A man’s essential guide to the mystery of sexuality, and to reclaiming his open heart. (August 2020)

In this 4-part series we uncover the lies you’ve been told about your sexuality and I reveal to you how shifting your sexual mindset can revolutionise your relationships and invite you and your partner into increased intimacy, pleasure and enjoyment in your lives.

We will journey together for 4 weeks, across 4 key cornerstones of psychosexual programming, equipping you to better understand your body, your sexual behaviour and how you can take the quality of your sexual and intimate experiences to the next level, reducing the pressure you place on yourself and inviting sexual partners into greater agency and sexual empowerment.

Conditioning - Her Pleasure - His Pleasure - Neuroplasticity

Workshop timetable: 2 hrs on Monday evenings across August. From 7pm

Note: this programme will also require a short, optional, personal daily practise and once a week buddy check-in for maximum impact.

August 3rd:

Vulnerability Matters: Male sexual conditioning in the modern age and how we protect our hearts.

August 10th

Sensual, Seductive and Silenced: Female sexual conditioning in the modern age and how your loving touch can support her unfolding.

August 17th

Coming Together: The magic of presence, communication and mutual responsibility for deepening your intimacy.

August 24th

Deconstructing Venus: A Guide to Women’s anatomy and arousal and what you really need to know to make an exceptional lover.

This programme is for you if:

  • You identify as male or male-bodied.
  • You are looking for change and improvement in your life in relation to sexuality, intimacy and the quality of your physical relationships.
  • You are willing to bring yourself into a group healing environment to create change in the way you relate to your sexuality.
  • You are open to the idea that by reclaiming your vulnerability during the most intimate, shared expression of yourself, that you set deep physiological imprints for your body, that allow it to begin to soften , whilst opening space for real connection in your relationships inside and outside the bedroom.
  • You are open to the concept that you are a changeable and complex being, made up of multiple parts.
  • You are open to the possibility that parts of you came online and took shape during your developmental and adult experiences and that they now organise themselves around your sexual expression in a way that attempts to keep you feeling safe and powerful.
  • You are willing to get to know these parts of yourself and support them to relax or expand in order that you might have new experiences of your sexuality.
  • You are ready to leave self-criticism and shame behind and embrace a loving connection to yourself and to those who want to love you and give you pleasure.
  • You believe that the increasing sexual consciousness of men and women has a critical role in the world and are willing to be a part of a group of people bravely stepping into personal development in an area most shy away from looking at.
  • You are willing to acknowledge me in my role as your guide in this territory as being both human and imperfect and to retain ownership for developing your own thoughts, feelings and truth in regards your personal sexuality, how you chose to express yourself and the decisions you make in your relationships.

Note: you do not need to have been raised as male or identify as heterosexual to take part in this programme, however it is designed to be most helpful for persons who have been raised male and intend, or have, some experience of partnering sexually with women.

No prior personal development experience or therapeutic experience is needed. Just an open mind and a willing heart. You will be welcomed and held safe as the sacred being that you are.

Platform

Zoom

Benefits of Attending

  • Avoid costly mistakes, heart-ache, rejection and humiliation by educating yourself about your sexuality and taking yourself as a lover seriously, for yourself and for the sake of your partners.
  • Become a better, more present and more relaxed lover.
  • Increase sexual confidence and communication skills
  • Leverage the power of groups to expedite your journey, release shame and normalise difficult sexual experiences you may have had from simply being male and not having received adequate education about the female body and the sexual act itself.
  • Re-imprint inaccurate messages you may have learned about female sexuality from the pornography industry.
  • Shortcut years of potential trial and error on the relational healing path by being open to the experience of a sexuality professional and of a supportive and neutral female guide.
  • Learn more about your own body and its needs.
  • Learn how to touch your partner, physically and emotionally.
  • Learn to consistently have sex work for you and reduce performance-related stress
  • Give your relationships a better chance of success and pleasure by bringing more of yourself and avoiding over-responsibility, feelings of rejection, resentments and power imbalances.
  • Take space for yourself to receive from the group, putting down the cultural burden that men carry of needing to effort, perform or work hard to be of value.
  • Embrace your privilege and learn to wield your power in the world with consciousness and heart, being a force for positive change.

Pricing, Payment & Application

  • One-off payment of £125 for the full series. Payments received before close of day July 27th are eligible for an additional £25 early payment discount; Early Bird Price £100
  • To apply please email me This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. to confirm your desire to join the programme and submit your payment to Miss E Harper, Triodos Bank, Sort Code: 16-58-10, Account No: 20849605, pay the £125 fee via Paypal here for overseas participants or to avoid my payment of Paypal fees please transfer via friends and family to This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.

It can be beneficial to accompany your journey with 1 to 1 Internal Family Systems sessions. Please enquire for further information if you have an openness to personal therapy/process.

Ideal group size is 8-12 and places will be limited above 24 participants

For more information on Internal Family Systems from Founder Richard C Schwartz visit: https://ifs-institute.com/

For more information on Psychosexual Somatics Therapy visit: https://www.psychosexualsomatics.com/

Get Started

Book an Introductory Call

The first step starts with reaching out. Please get in touch to let me know you are interested in doing your inner work. I offer a free 20 min Zoom introductory call if I’m able to accommodate you as a new or potential new client. I look forward to hearing from you.

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"Emma was a guardian angel for me during one of the most difficult times in my life. Her presence and witnessing of my experience supported me in navigating the ups and downs of of grief, separation and depression. She is attentive, kind, non-expectant and balanced between personal and professional. It's safe to say Emma is meant to do this work. I recommend her whole heartedly." 

Anonymous

"The body is our soul made visible, plus our history."

Mike Lousada, Founder of Psychosexual Somatics® Therapy

“Place yourself in the cycle of life by living like nature, letting go of the death of your winter (older or outdated versions of yourself) as you are reborn into a new shape of possibility, your spring.”

Anne Davin, PhD

"Out of difficulties grow miracles.” 

Jean De La Bruyere

"Our nervous system is built to respond to certain input in a way that gives us maximum survival.” 

Michaela Boehm

"There is a voice that doesn't use words. Listen.” 

Rumi

"Emma has a very compassionate heart and a strong sense of empathy, both of which she uses to lovingly support clients to drop more fully into their bodies. She is open-minded, non-judgmental and can safely hold space for many states and experiences and help clients ground and integrate different aspects of themselves. She is an excellent PST practitioner and I warmly recommend her."

Mike Lousada, Founder of Psychosexual Somatics Therapy

"Emma Harper's passion for transformation - both in herself and in her clients - matches her enthusiasm for life. I admire her wild feminine courage to dive head first into the cutting edges of all her lines of development, and as she does, others are inspired to do the same. The result ... Freedom. Vitality. Synchronicity. Sensuality. Magic. Miracles. Yes!"

Lissa Rankin, MD

"Experiencing with Emma as my psychosexual somatic therapist is strong feeling of being held, seen and supported in my healing process. I feel safe and supported with Emma to trully express my emotions and feelings. She has strong empathy and I adore her body intuition to help me to connect to myself and listen to my body and dont let me to escape. I can hardly explain how good it feels when she hold safe and powerful space for me to guide me to release blocks and integrate part of myself I was rejecting. It is life shifting work we do together (for each other). Thank you Emma for your great work. I look forward to more release and more integration with you."

Barbora Koblizek, (Tantric Masseuse and Fellow PST Therapist)

"Working with Emma was a wonderfully nurturing and empowering experience. I'm really grateful for what she taught me about my body and sexuality. I was amazed by the variety of techniques that Emma used to help me understand my body and mind. I've learnt things about myself that have helped me in all areas of my life, not just the bedroom!” 

Miranda Bloodworth

I really enjoyed the Unravelling Peak Performance workshop. I met a group of nice gentlemen, we shared our stories and experiences sometimes with bravery and always with open heart, learnt about each other, and most importantly made progress in being better men and better partners. I loved how Emma facilitated the workshop, bringing us where she wanted in a gentle and loving way. I highly recommend this workshop to everyone who is on his journey to be a better man.

JJ Munsch, 2020 Unravelling Peak Performance workshop participant

"Powerful and transformative - what I learned was well beyond any expectations. Emma is a brilliant facilitator who created the space and material for us to grow rapidly whilst having fun."

Anthony Kennon

Emma held a space for me which allowed me to feel safe, seen and deeply valued. Her gentle directions and guidance allowed me to access parts of myself that I had been frightened to look at on my own. Being supported by Emma has enabled me to make positive changes in my life from an embodied place. 

Grace Brown, PST Mentee

Emma, I am grateful that you were my mentor. You attuned really well to what I needed in the mentor sessions. You are very good in paraphrasing what is really important in such a way that that it sinks deeper. You have the gift of being able to really see people in their essence, in what makes them unique. You have a great intuition, and you bring that kind of safety that invites me to bring what wants to be seen, even when that is very vulnerable. And you always give choice, which feels very empowering. 

Thank you very much. Warm hugs

Karen. PST Mentee

 "The powerful yet vulnerable way Emma guided and mirrored me in my intimate process of growth has been a very insightful and remarkable journey."  

Piero Flor, Intimacycoach

"I have come out of it a changed woman. I have dropped the old stories of something being wrong with me and that I am not sexual. I am able to stand in my power and in the sexual energy without always wanting to run away from it."

“ I still want to work more on it, to uncover more of me that has been in hiding for so long. But I will be doing the work in the knowledge that I am not broken or frigid, I am not any of the labels I have been called over the years. I am a healthy, sexual woman who chooses when and with whom she wants to share that energy with. I know now that my sexuality is not always connected to someone else, that I am a sexual being in my own right and that it doesn't have to include anyone else. That is a revelation for me!" 

Louise Merrick; Mother, Writer, Women's Sexual Expression Programme 2019 Graduate

“ I felt so seen, heard and supported with Emma as my PST mentor, I cannot recommend her enough. She has a gentle and caring presence combined with intelligence that feels very unique, she helped build my confidence and empowered me to trust my instincts. “ 

Alakina Mann, Mentee

"Emma rocks!!"

...and....

Emma has a safe, grounded and beautifully heart centred presence. She welcomed all parts of me into the space; the tender, the crazy, the angry, the sexy, the sleepy, the powerful...the full spectrum of being human. She has a lot of wisdom across different modalities and her approach integrates mind, body and spirit at a pace that my psyche was ready to open to. During our sessions, I was particularly thankful that she has an understanding of sexual energy/life-force energy and an awareness of the spiritual awakening process. 

Eshana Spiers

Emma's attention and skill over the last six months as a mentor and PST therapist has allowed me to feel safely held, seen, heard and respected through the process of our work together. Her being a mentor throughout my training was a major resource to me. I experienced her energy as boldly protective. Fiery and strong, yet compassionate; she has an amazing ability to understand a variety of experiences in a very open-minded way. She helped me to slow things right down and to get me to feel what was going on for me beneath the surface. 

Emma taught me to hold my own in identifying behaviour that was not ok and to set boundaries within my life that have proved to be so transformative for me. Her creative and playful energy also assisted me in forming a deeper relationship with my body in a way that lifted some of the heaviness I had been experiencing.

I am deeply honoured to have had Emma as a support during a monumental time in my life. Thank you Emma!

Sofia Panayiotou, PST Coach and Energy Work Practitioner

“I worked quite intensively with Emma over a period of 6 months or so. I found her to be a practitioner of great depth and empathy. Her ability to find just the right gesture, the right word, the right moment to say nothing at all, allowed me to go very deep into my inner processing of trauma from my past. During the time that I was under Emma’s care, I released some of the biggest trauma wounding patterns of my life. I can honestly say, that I am a different person since I completed this work with Emma. I feel that I have my life back. You are very lucky to find this wonderful practitioner. She has a very great capacity to hold you in your process, if you are willing to do your own work”

Karin Probert