Our bodies are the container for our Life-Force Energy; the aliveness that flows through our unique being. Our personal expression is shaped and changed by our personal history, our relationships, the influences and beliefs of those who preceded us in our lineage and the communities to which we have belonged or participated.
We are changeable, we are vulnerable and we are intelligent. We are capable of impacting and being impacted by the world around us. We are both our pre-wired habits and responses and our new possibilities. We are meaning-making machines.
Our goal is to understand, accept and love the complexity that we are, know our gifts, wield them gracefully and lead our system to heal from past hurts so we can connect to and explore this one precious life, with choices, agency and belonging.
Healthy systems Contain, Connect and Create
Many of us, sometimes without our conscious awareness, have experienced life events that overwhelm our systems, teaching us to bypass the natural neural pathways that allow for connection, intimacy and satisfaction and prioritising those geared towards survival.
These experiences of Trauma cause us to switch into more protective and reactive areas of our brain. With reduced cognitive function our capacity to respond to the world around us in healthy, boundaried and pro-social ways becomes constrained. We lose connection to the full intelligence of our bodies and therefore loose our capacity to process our sensory and emotional data accurately. We make up stories and we avoid facing difficult realities. It’s a vicious circle.
Operating within a tighter window of tolerance we seek to control or manage our environments or ourselves, numb or distract ourselves when we can’t and create recurrent dynamics in our relationships that sadly often perpetuate the stories of aloneness, victimhood or lack that were born in the originating traumas. Our sexuality is contorted, lost, or frightens us as we lose touch with how to relate to ourselves and to others due to boundary damage.
We are a social species. Relational trauma is healed in relationship. With re-connection to your body and the re-establishment of boundaries, you can develop skills that support communication, connection and safety in your sexual experiences.
Living your Self-led life is a process of increasing your capacity to tolerate and enjoy the full range of life again: pleasure and pain, togetherness and aloneness, certainty and confusion. You will work to take appropriate responsibility for your own behaviours, speak up, be kind and considerate to others, grieve what needs to be wept for, set boundaries where necessary, discover what you want and ask for it, walk away from abuse and walk towards health human connection.
Re-write your story and discover your Sexuality, Integrity and Freedom.
With Love,
